Episode #59 with Jon and Alexa

The Most Mature Young Couple You've Ever Met

It think there are a lot of Millennials who fear commitment and marriage.

I wish I could introduce each one of those people to Jon and Alexa.

This interview shows the wisdom of a very young couple, how they've fallen in love, stayed in love, and how they plan to stay in love... and my favorite part is that they do it in a realistic way.

One of my pet peeves when talking to couples about relationships is when they say things like, "Relationships are hard," or "Love takes a lot of work," without getting into the specifics of what is hard and what the work is.

Jon and Alexa do a BEAUTIFUL job at articulating the struggles and triumphs of romance. This is a story the whole world needs to hear. I hope to get them back on the podcast sometime soon.

I hope you enjoy the episode!

[jbox title="Show Notes:" border="5" radius="15"] Alexa and Jon are great friends of Melissa. They live in Chicago, they are madly in love with each other, and I hope you enjoy their story! Here are some of the key takeaways for me:

  • Reinventing falling in love over and over again. (4m)
  • How has the way you love each other evolved over your marriage? (7m)
  • Realizing that you don't have to do life alone. (10m)
  • Why is being married better than being single? (13m)
  • Having a partner gives you someone to answer to who keeps you motivated and embracing change and growth. (15m)
  • Your relationships help you come to know yourself. You can't come to know yourself except through other people. (23m)
  • Good love needs a community!
  • How can you remind your partner of their greatness? (25m)
  • How does life change when your partner forces you out of your head and into living in the moment? (33m)
  • Don't avoid the hard conversations or you don't get the amazing moments that come as a result of having them. (35m)
  • The 5 Love Languages - It's important to communicate your love in a way that your partner understands. (38m)
  • Start your difficult conversations with warmth and vulnerability. This is called the Soft Start Up.
  • How you listen is more important than what you say. (42m)
  • Don't get caught up in what other people think - unrealistic standards - or it will destroy your ability to be vulnerable. (45m)
  • When you enter a conversation with blame, you will never accomplish anything except hurt feelings and destruction. (49m)
  • What role does faith place in your relationship? (52m)
  • What advice do you have for other couples out there? Don't try to be someone you're not. (59m)
  • The moment at their wedding when Alexa felt an overpowering energy that she'd never experienced before. (1h 2m)
  • What it's like to go through the ebbs and flows of a relationship. (1h 5m)